how people perceive failure???

Different people have different perception. why???
It is because of culture, lifestyle, upbringing, education, instinct, grooming over the year, situation faced over the year. Depending on the above factors, the way people react to failure is different. With the little experience I have, I would like to categorize people in 5 different types with respect to this issue.
1. Happy go lucky
2. Tension+
3. pretending happy+
4. pretending happy -
5. depressed
6. joker

happy go lucky: these r the people who r less bothered about result, they have carefree attitude, are not very serious about the particular issue.

tension+: these r people who are very serious abt the result, take a lot of pain to succeed and try their best to overcome the failure but always regret the particular failure.

pretending happy+: these people don’t let the sadness encroach their face or behavior but internally they r very strong and they keep on doing hard work and try to change the wind in their supporting direction.

pretending happy-: these people try to hide their sadness in happy face, but actually their heart is choked and they had lost the courage to fight back.

depressed: these r those people who had lost their courage and their failure can be seen on their face.

joker: these r the most complicated lot. it is very hard to predict what going inside them but to the outside world they r crowd puller, they do very funny things enjoyed by all.

why do these people react so differently to failure, this is because of the perception.

for some the failure is not a obstacle but a stepping stone, they learn from it and fights back.

for some end is not important but the journey is and they don’t give a damn to failure and keep on doing their work.

for some the work itself is not important and they don’t give damn to the work itself.

for some people every thing is so important or they r passionate about everything they do and for them it is very hard to digest failure.

for some people who had always live in a protected environment, to face failure is very hard and their reaction is uncivilized instinct. It can be a serious fight to win or surrender to the situation.

in this way all the factors discussed initially plays a important role in shaping the perception and as well as shaping the response.

at last i wud like to end the discussion with the statement "in ur good or bad time, keep reciting god's name, because whether god exist or not, his name gives u strength to fight the failures." And never leave ur dear ones who failed because that’s the time when they need u the most and remember u may be at the other end someday and u may feel the same need.

is she a gud gal?????

i remember once i asked one experienced interviewer, what do u look in a prospect candidate? to which he replied " what will u look in a gal for taking a marriage decision?" too that my obvious reply was i ll not look for one particular aspect, rather its overall personality i.e tangible and intangible aspect( to be discussed later) that is important to me. So he said similarly we too look for overall personality.

the discussion at that time ended there, but today when one of my friend asked me" is she a gud gal?". then these old thought recaptured my mind and i started thinking what parameters i ll use to evaluate a gal. whatever decision i am going to make is going to hav 2 consequences - it is going to play a important role in shaping up my friends life and second i too am going to understand myself, my choices in a better manner.

let us instead of starting the process of rating with listing the parameters and then rating her on those parameters, i would like to tell u parameters and rating simultaneously.

unlike those honest person who says that we shud look at the gals heart, i ll definetly first look for the gals look(before taht let me make it clear this what i called tangible) not because feelings doen't bother me but looks though not require sufficiency condition but definetly plays a necessary role. definetly at this stage its going to be a elimination round only. ...now moving on to that gal..i wud say she definetly cleaars this elimination round. though she was somewhat healthy at the time i saw her first but now she has reduced and looks hot.

coming on to second phase of the same round, i feel that she is gud looking and has the glow on the face that is capable of attracting attention....i hav to move to next stage or else i am going to fall in love...overall atleast 3 star

(now most of the discussion deals with intangible parameters)

the second round of evaluation wheer in u see the gals heart, i would say that though i had never been so close to that gal but then also i feel that she is gud at heart, is a gal with high integrity.cant say more on this. sorry my friend. ****rating

"basic behaviour of the person", the next logical parameter to evaluate her on...i think she is hard working, knows how to carry herself an dmore tahn that is able to carry that gud image in most of the people i had talked to. so she scores here close to four stars.

now comes the most difficult part, to evaluate gal not on a parameter but to check whether the she is "akru" or not. u must bhi thinking why suddenly such an irrelevant talk!!! this need to be discusssed on special mention by my friend as he thoughts that she is "akru". now particularly i thnk that when u start thnkng abt gal in this manner ur expectations and faer of rejection starts increasing and therefore u start feeling that gal is trying to project herself superior but i thnk that ur thoughts r always right. specially in this case i feel that my friend is wrong i.e. she is not "akru". also as even though after my persistence efforts to know about any such significant incidence my friend refused to tell me anything so i had to believe that this "akru" is a wrong belief.

after this analysis i think the gal is gud investment oppurtunity for long term and my friend shud straight away go and propose her. And if my dear friend u still feel think otherwise plz let me know, as i ll definetly like to try it out as know i am feeling that the gal is really gud.

why do people write blogs????

this is my first blog and i am trying to find why the hell people write blogs or rather why i am writing a blog? the reason behind this can be many ranging from giving a structure to the thought process to some abstract reason like i have no work to do so i am writing blog.
lets explore it more through understanding the basic philosophy of human. a man can't sit idle and therefore he needs some work. is it that people like me who have no work, start writing blogs. No, bcoz even if person has no work he can do something else like walking, talking to friends etc.
is it possible that a person writes blog to pass his thoughts to other? i dont think so bcoz neither a person is aware of the profile of readers nor he knows will anybody reads his blog or not. can then reason be that he just wants to pen down his thoughts so that there is space for other thoughts? this again is conspicuos as atleast in my case i hav no thought but just to write a blog, i am writing.
but a person like me who doesn't even want to type the assignments and reports is typing a blog, so definetly this cant be "just to write" bcoz of which i am writing. is there something else governing me or i am writing bcoz these dayz blogs are "in".
but a person like me who doesn't care whether people think me hap or not doesn't get affected by what ppl say abt me ...cant write just bcoz of fashion.
after analyzing all these reasons now more and more i believe that i am writing to kill my time as i have no other work to do...but why blog???
let the reason for time being be assumed that blogging is done to kill the time. so now lets think what people or rather we ourself used to do when there was no blog to kill time...rather i can think of yesterday only as this my frist blog i used to do all those old faishoned things to kill time till yesterday.
i used to write poem, to sleep, to walk, to sing in carnivorous voice...and what not??? i would have used this time to do something creative or rather to relax but not in doing this wasteful activity.
though i know that i am wasting my time then also i am blogging so is it that i still dont know why i am writing??
now i can tell u there is a mystery behind evrything when u blog that is u dont no who is going to read and what the comments are going to be like but in anticipation of some feedback that to from a person u dont know u blog. that is a person needs true feedback but when it is given in a direct manner ppl thnk that either the person is diplomatic enough that he is praising the thoughts or he is not learned enough that he cn understand my blog( in case of praise and criticism respectively). Which reduces the chances of taking feedback in constructive manner?
but still i think i am not writing this blog to take someones feedback as neither blogging is my passion nor i want to see like minded people.
then why am i Bloging????